It is Monday morning. Your twelve year old son, Nat, had a very busy and fun-filled weekend. He had two friends over for the weekend and none of the boys slept much. Nat's guests headed home around 4:00pm on Sunday. When Nat is tired, he gets in a foul mood and is grumpy. Soon after the departure of friends, Nat started getting rude with you and your spouse and seemed irritated with generally everything. Because of some emotional issues in his past you have learned to talk to him about things when he gets like this. You ascertain that Nat is just very physically tired. You suggest some calm and relaxing activities. Nat decides on a pre-dinner bike ride. At the dinner table, Nat keeps nodding off and he is grumpy about his dinner. Your spouse suggests, "Honey, you had a busy weekend. It would be OK if you wanted to go and lie down and read." Nat refuses and starts back talking and sassing your spouse. Since the start of the school year, you all have allowed Nat to manage his own bedtime. He has always been responsible for this and often goes to bed some nights earlier than he did when he had a set time.
Your spouse tells Nat that (s)he knows he is tired and he needs to be careful about how he is speaking to everyone. Nat smarts off again about how he does not have to go to bed because he has no bed time. Your spouse has had enough and says, "Well, you do tonight, go to bed - NOW!" As it is not quite yet even 8:00pm, Nat starts arguing again. You step in and say, "What were you told to do?"
Nat replies, "I was told to go to bed but I am supposed to be able to stay up if I want." Nat tries to argue his point with you. You tell him firmly, "You have two choices. You may go to bed now as you were told or you may get a spanking and then go to bed as you were told." Nat gives you a look but finally says, "OK, I'll go to bed." He is asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow.
Around midnight, you are in your home office killing time on your computer and Nat looks in on his way to the restroom. His mood and tone are much better even though you can tell he is sleepy. He tells you he is on the way to the restroom but he is sorry he was acting like such a jerk earlier. You two hug and you tell him all is forgiven and to have a good night.
This morning, Nat must have woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Grumpy boy is back. He is complaining about breakfast and everything seems to be wrong with the world. He does try to get rude with your spouse but your spouse is able to clam that down. It is just all and all a really bad morning for Nat and his attitude. You wonder where the sweet boy from midnight is at.
As you are taking Nat to school, you try to have a discussion with him to see if there are any issues. He does not want to talk. You get to school and wish him a good day but tell him the two of you need to have a long talk when he gets home.
When he gets home is talking all you will do?