As most probably know, this is an account of our son, Nathaniel.
He served his detention today.
Anne and I were also able to get a conference to discuss ideas and strategies.
The teacher, guidance counselor and assistant principal attended the conference. I did suggest during our conference that the detention be made very unpleasant. Normally the kids have to sit quietly in a room and read or work on homework for an hour. Honestly, he comes home and does homework right away as it is. (His choice.) So I still wanted him to feel the time lost. We agreed he would spend the hour with the janitorial crew. (I had to do that several times when I was in school.)
Also, he normally rides the bus home but Anne had to go pick him up today. We charged him five dollars for the ride - just to make a point.
He came in a very unhappy boy after spending an hour emptying trash cans and then he still had to do his homework. We also made sure we collected the car fare first thing when he hit the door. (He has a nice savings of allowance stashed in his room.)
This detention definitely became a BIG DEAL to him.
He was NOT happy with me for getting his detention altered and, in my opinion, crossed the line into disrespect. We have agreed to discuss that after dinner.
The conference was productive. We all discussed ways to better challenge him and keep him interested. We have also devised a rewards system for him doing the extra work and puzzles instead of talking and disrupting. However, if he has the issue again, the school has agreed to call me or Anne.
He knows his punishment will then be an evening secluded to the guest room. Any further issue beyond that and it goes to the principal and the paddle comes out. And, as much as I typically do not care for double jeopardy, should he be paddled for this, he will then earn another evening of seclusion.
Hopefully the issue is solved. The only thing still on the table s addressing his attitude with me this afternoon. We are both taking some space before that discussion occurs. Just due to several issues of this that I have let slide, as it stands now, he will probably not escape a spanking. But, the spanking is for the attitude and not the issue at school. However, I will hear him out before I consider spanking him..