Kat wrote:1strappedboy wrote:Where DO you draw the line for your kids?
There are times when parents can't protect kids from the legal consequences of their actions or the consequences imposed by authorities such as their schools. If a police officer had pulled Austin over, I wouldn't be able to do much -- and even less if he had been involved in an accident with another car.
Then there are times when you shouldn't protect your kid beyond providing support to the extent you can. I was reading earlier this week about two teenage girls who murdered a third girl, who was supposedly their best friend. If a parent is aware that his child is involved in something like that, I don't think it's right not to go to the police. But at the same time, I think a parent in that situation is still the child's natural protector and must provide what legal and emotional help he can.
In this BOTD, Austin has done nothing that many of us didn't do in our day. He messed up -- seriously messed up -- but it was stupid rather than malicious. I wouldn't throw him under the bus to save myself a few hundred dollars. I would, however, make sure I punished him myself in a manner that is proportionate to the offense.
Holy crap but would it be awful to be in those parents' shoes though?
I quite agree that in the case of our BoTD there's no way I could in good conscience subject my son to the law in the instance outlined. Yet, I realize that showing him I'm willing to be "economical with the truth" at times does send a signal I'm not happy with.
Besides recondite punishment, we are definitely going to have to have a serious discussion about ethics and dealing with the real world. I hope that at 15, he's mature enough to grasp what I'm attempting to explain to him!