There's a REASON we employ "trouble @ school=trouble @ home" as a mantra in our house, and it is 2 fold:Jack wrote:MM - take another look at the classes he's taking. I wouldn't have been an outcast in any of those.
David, I know some people have a knee-jerk reaction to the idea of a parent adding to school punishments. My problem with it is when the school has already handled things appropriately, which makes the home addition seem like overkill.
In this case, it might be time for you to sit down and talk with Nate. He's smart enough he understands that when he plays the magpie, he's distracting the other students and the teacher, and that's not fair to anyone else. Assuming he does understand this (which he will after you explain it, if not before), it might be time to talk about him getting to look forward to more at home if he keeps pushing things.
1. It serves as an additional deterrent to getting into trouble in the first place and I have been told by ALL our kids that this largely works/worked. Yes, they've gotten I trouble and were punished again so it's not perfect, but still......
2. It expresses OUR (parental) displeasure at their getting into trouble at school. The school has punished them for their "in school" behavior, now I'm punishing you for doing what you know you should not have and (old fashioned as it sounds) embarrassed the family name!
I won't presume to tell you how to run your household but I will say that it has largely worked for ours; I'll confess that it worked for us as kids as well. We SURE didn't want to come home to face 'dad' in the barn after detention (or God forbid, a paddling in school) so we were sure to either toe the line or not get caught!!
Perhaps Nate could that "extra incentive to think" that this provides.