Time passed, he recovered, and vacation started. Oh, and you started asking him to help out a bit. Especially the last day or so of school, when you were running around like a madman (or woman) trying to get everything ready for the class parties, and then the parties you would be hosting within a day or two.
You could say that Skyler was less than enthusiastic. You could (more accurately) say he ignored you entirely and just didn't do anything.
You tried to be understanding. You reminded yourself that things were pretty rough on him right now, so he was probably acting out a bit. You covered everything you could, and got your own kids to help a bit where they could.
Friday, Skyler's brother joined you. You've had two parties the last two nights - one just for kids, and one for families. Skyler didn't know everyone there, but he's been at your home before, and he did know several kids. More than that, he obviously had a good time.
Great, he seems to be doing much better and recovering.
Then today, what you have planned as a quiet day to recover from the parties, before the family Christmas celebration begins, you're wishing you could get a quiet minute, since you're running around - cleaning up, preparing for the next couple of days, and trying to make time to visit with your adult kids who've stopped around (and play with your grandkids). You ask Skyler to separate the whites out of the dirty laundry and start a load. He tells you he'll do it in a minute.
An hour later, you remind him he needs to get that done. He tells you (again) he'll do it in a minute. You tell him he needs to do it now, but you don't have a chance to follow up, because of a hyperactive, four-year old granddaughter who just stole her five-year old uncle's favorite teddy bear.
Twenty minutes later, Skyler is still playing video games, and no laundry has been done.
You have permission from his dad to treat him just like you would your own kids. With Christmas three days away, grounding or even restrictions aren't much of an option. You've spanked him before, and your own kids who are a year or two older than him are still paddled occasionally (with their general agreement), but you can't quite get passed the fact that he was in the hospital and seriously banged up less than two weeks ago.
So what do you do now?