When some of the rules seem to be a problem for him, you sit down and let him have input into them, explaining why you feel the ones you won't change are important. In some cases, you give him options.
One of the options is that he can either come home and do his chores, then be home in time for dinner, or he can hang out with his friends, but then he needs to be home by 5:30. Even though he agreed to that and thought it was a good idea, he hasnt' been going by it.
When Joey was younger, you spanked him - your bare hand on his bare rear, with him over your lap. As he grew older, you started using an implement more and more. However, he still fits over your lap. He hates it though, because he says it's childish (and probably because he still cries when you spank him). Since he's nearing his teens, you've pretty much quit spanking him, but the last time he came in late, while his chores were undone, then gave you grief about it when you reminded him that he'd agreed to that, you told him he has one last chance - next time it happens, you're spanking him the old fashioned way.
And that next time was today.
Traffic was heavy, and you arrived home a bit after 5:30. When you went inside, trash wasn't taken out, though Joey had obviously been home for a snack (the mess he left made it obvious). Looking around, you see that neither of his other chores for the day were done either.
He's still not home after you change clothes, so you call him. His phone goes straight to voice mail. You're sure where he is, so you walk down there to get him. You don't want to embarrass him in front of his friends, so when you get there (not even two blocks away), find him and some other boys shooting baskets, so you wait until he sees you, then point at your watch. He turns away, so you speak up and tell him it's time to come home. He turns and gives you an ugly glare, but tosses the ball to one of his friends, walks over and picks up his bike, then stops as he passes you.
"I don't know why it's such a big deal."
That was one straw too many, and you just snap and swat him on the butt, telling him to get on the bike and get home.
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