Pi Beta wrote:Does Joe know the rules? He may have been tutored by you, but that doesn't necessarily mean that he knows ALL the House Rules.
That's a good point, but I tutored Joe for almost a year and a half, and, in this current school year, he's been coming over here almost every day after school, until a parent picked him up. During that time, he was very particularly told that he was only allowed in my library with specific permission.
There actually was a reason they had a stack of books, by the way. Tarzan was the first character with whom Joe really feel in love under my tutelage. The stack they had included Tarzan of the Apes - the first novel by Edgar Rice Burroughs - along with the Archive Edition with Joe Kubert's adaptation of it, another Archive with some Tarzan by Russ Manning, a Sgt Rock Archive (by Joe Kubert), the Joe Kubert 's Tarzan of the Ape Artist's Edition, a couple of books on Wold Newton, and some comic/pulp reference.
Since we're talking about spanking, I should point out that the two boys were sprawled across John's bed. Joe was wearing knit boxers, and Joe had on his boxer briefs. They were face down with pillows under their chest, and the books spread in front of them as Joe explained things to John.
I waited for a break in the conversation before asking what the rule is about going in the library. The two of them looked devastated, but neither protested. I told them that part of the reason for the rule - and the reason it applies to the two of them - is not that I don't trust them, but that if they go in and out whenever they want, others might as well. The simple truth is that I want it to be my decision, at the time, as to whether I go get something for someone, go in with them, or let them go on their own.
Both of the boys were very solemn and apologetic at this point.
I told them that if they did it again, I'd have to spank. As for the rest, I was going to check in the morning, and for every one of those books that wasn't filed properly, they'd each be getting one swat - except they could keep one for reading.
I'm happy to say that my library has a place for everything, and the next morning, everything was in it's place.
And Dmitri - I can't consider this direct
disobedience, because it's a rule that isn't ... it's always in effect, but it just doesn't matter that much. To me, direct disobedience is when I tell a boy not to do something, and he turns around and does it anyway.