AN ANTHONY PRODUCTION
Peter hangs about with the girls more than he hangs about with the boys. He’s more into tennis and softball than he is with baseball or football. At home he spends a lot of the time with Sophie who says he just gets in the way when she wants to have some space to herself. She became quite angry when she caught him going through some of her personal things in her wardrobe. So much so that you told him her bedroom became off limits to him.
This upset Peter greatly, but you felt it was inappropriate for him to go through his sister’s clothes and you told him so. You mentioned that if he ever did it again then it would warrant a spanking.
Some months later your spouse informs you that some of Sophie’s clothes have gone missing, such as her panties and bra to name but two. Immediately suspicion falls on Peter. You question him and he vehemently denies taking them, you ask him again and tell him to look you strait in the eye. He again denies it. So you give him the benefit of the doubt and tell your spouse to check Peter’s bedroom.
She goes through it from top to bottom and not one sign of the panties or bra can be found in his bedroom. Perhaps if she’d taken the time to open Peter’s record case then things would have been a different story. She concludes that she must have mistakenly put them out with the trash.
A couple of days later your spouse takes Sophie to the mall to buy a new bra and panties to replace the two missing items. You ask Peter if he wants to come, but he says he’d rather do some work on the collage he’s working on for his school art project.
About half an hour later you call in at home to pick up some material for your presentation at the office. You are somewhat taken-a-back when you see Peter in Sophie’s bedroom. He’s standing there in front of the mirror wearing one of her dresses.
You ask him what he’s doing wearing the dress, he breaks down and tells you that it feels good when he’s wearing girls clothes. You then ask him about the missing panties and the bra, he tells you he’s wearing them. It’s too late for you to do anything now as you have to head back to the office. You tell him that you are going to have more words with him later that evening.
After dinner you confront Peter again. In front of you, your spouse and Sophie he confesses that he’s been dressing in Sophie’s clothes for sometime. He goes on to explain that he feels more himself and comfortable when wearing girls clothes than he does his boy things.
Defending her brother, Sophie says, he does spend a lot of time with the girls than he does the boys and he seems more relaxed with them. And then your spouse adds he does help a lot with some of the housework, they normally run a mile if you ask a boy to clean the dishes or put out the trash, but not Peter, he’ll do it for you willingly. Sometimes I see him more as a second daughter than a son, like a sister for Sophie.
Peter says he’s sorry to Sophie for taking her things and dressing in them. He then says sorry to you and your spouse for what he does. He breaks down and says, “I can’t help the way I am Dad.” With tears streaming down his face he looks at his Mom and sister, "I didn't want to hurt all of you, that's why I kept my dressing a secret."
Peter’s put the ball in your court, what do you do next. Do you punish him for his lies and dishonesty and that he broke boundaries in entering Sophie's bedroom when you told him not too?