Icono, do you seriously not see a difference between micromanaging their lives and being able to get ahold of him if you need to?
Dmitri - you gave phones to 9-year olds? (Mind you, that's not as surprising to me as it would have been even a few years ago, but still....).
I'm with the rest of the group. Unless this is something he's done before, Kenny is getting off with a stern reminder of the rules. However, there may be a couple of smacks for that 'you told me I could play' comment, since he knows darned well that's not what I said.
This isn't really a real life situation, though my Kenny was the inspiration.
Yesterday, Kenny asked me if he could 'go bike riding'. When I asked, he admitted he was going to go see if anyone was home and playing. I told him that was fine, but he needed to be home in one hour, unless he ended up hanging around some place. He called me after about 30 minutes to say he was at Uncle Dean's.
No trouble there, but it did give me the idea, when I needed a BOTD last night.