Ethan and Aidan will soon be starting to school with some of your boys, but right now, they're staying with you during the day, while you're all awaiting their acceptance. Both boys are extremely ADHD - both energetic and impulsive. One of the reason their parents asked you to watch them is that they need someone who will be firm and consistent, but fair and understanding with them.
Yesterday, they asked if they could go bike riding. You thought about it a bit and told them 'no'. There are bikes they could use, but your kids are still at school. You just fill like it's not a good idea for them to be riding around during school hours. And honestly, because they're not familiar with your neighborhood, and they are very impulsive, you don't quite trust them, out on their own, not to get lost or something.
Today, you leave them with one of your adult sons, Bobby, while you finish your shopping. On your way home, you turn a corner and see...
When you all arrive, they rush to tell you that they'd asked Bobby, and he'd said it's okay. You remind them that you'd very specifically told them yesterday that it was not okay. As a matter of fact, you feel like it's disobedience. They protest that they hadn't known you meant the whole time. You point out that your (first) reason specifically said, 'while the other boys were in school'.
They can't really argue with that.
Further, when you ask them, they admit that they'd get in trouble at home, if Dad told them no, and they went and asked Mom.
You don't want to be too strict on them, and you'd planned on giving them minor corrections while they learned the rules. On the other hand, they know you're in charge, and that they're expected to mind you. Do you just need to spell things out for them, is it time for the introduction between your hand and their bottoms, or should you jump straight to the paddle your own boys would be getting in this situation?