A John Boy Production
You have two sons. Vance is fourteen and Bart is ten. Bart is often more difficult than Vance. Bart is more outspoken than Vance. Vance feels, sometimes rightfully so, that Bart gets away with more stuff than he does and that Bart gets preferential treatment. Vance feels treated differently and unfairly than his brother. Vance has tried to discuss his feelings with you and your spouse but he was dismissed as you and your spouse feel you treat the boys the same and you feel you are good parents.
Vance felt he had to vent and be heard and so he made a video diary of his feelings. He spoke strongly against his brother and he spoke strongly against his parents. Vance spared no words in his video diary describing exactly how he felt about you, your spouse and his brother. He even used the phrase, "My parents are so f**king unfair!" Vance never intended for anyone to see the video; he was simply getting some stuff off of his chest.
Bart is messing with Vance's camera and comes across the recording. Bart runs immediately to you and your spouse and shows you the video. Bart is very offended. You and your spouse are also hurt and offended.
How do you deal with Vance?
Do you do anything about Bart?