Mrs. Tidwell is very pregnant right now. She's had a rather difficult pregnancy, and she had a miscarriage with the previous child, so she's trying to take things as easy as possible. Mr. Tidwell is a District Manager with his company, and his position requires him to travel occasionally. Because the baby is due about 2 April, he's traveling now, taking care of all his normal duties, so he'll be able to be home for the babies birth and spend a few days home afterwards.
That explains why you received a call letting you know that 12-year old, sixth grader, Evan Tidwell is in the office, and your attendance is requested.
Like some of your own sons, Evan attends a private school, which tends to be pretty strict. One of the things they do is use their status to avoid applying a very few, extremely hard swats, and try to reach a balance that will get a boys attention, without leaving him bruised and battered. Another thing they do is involve the parents (or unofficial uncles).
When you get to the school, the principal explains to you that Evan and one of his friends had been acting up in class. They'd been sent to the hall, where they continued to act up. Their teacher took them to a work room for privacy, and was preparing to give each boy two swats, before allowing them to return to class. When told to empty their pockets, Evan suddenly became nervous. Eventually he did empty his pockets, revealing a lighter he was carrying.
The other boy was paddled. Evan was referred to the office. Now here you are.
While there are legitimate reasons to carry a lighter beyond smoking, none of them really apply to a school boy. The general view is that lighters and school boys don't mix, and the rules actually specifically forbid them. The principal is suggesting three swats, bare bottomed, for the lighter, and another two for the original misbehavior. You've seen the principal paddle before, and you know he'll be age appropriate, so you agree. The trouble comes when you announce your decision.
Mr. Tidwell will give follow up spankings at home, or apply them before the paddle is applied, if he's called to school - but only for things that he feels are worthy of spanking beyond the school issue, not for simple 'procedural' problems (disobedience - yes, tardy - no). Evan feels like his dad would consider this a spanking situation, so he wants you to spank him, so he can 'get it over with', rather than having to wait for his father to get home the day after tomorrow. As long as he wasn't starting fires or smoking, you don't consider just carrying the lighter to be a major transgression, and feel that five swats bare will be more than enough.
Evan is unhappy about the swats, but he's even more unhappy that you won't spank him, because he's sure his dad will.
Will you go ahead and spank, to keep him from having to wait, or do you think enough is enough?