As the oldest of your family, you've tried to respect your oldest son Asher and not treat him the same as his younger brothers, but as someone who was a bit older than them. While he was in eighth grade, you switched from corporal punishment to grounding and restriction. Apparently Anson didn't really like being treated as older and more mature. A few months ago, when Anson complained about getting grounded, when his brothers were still getting spanked, you took him at his word, and you've been spanking him since then.
There were problems occurring at the time you decided to start spanking Anson again. Your SO works at home, so is responsible for getting the kids off to school in the morning. There was a lot of trouble ongoing with that (not just one day, but nearly daily in some fashion or another). You were easily able to track down why the problems were happening, so the two of you came up with a plan that ended the problems by requiring the kids to keep to an evening schedule, and have most things done before they went to bed (on a timely basis).
While the whole crew received at least one spanking, once they settled in, the problems mostly went away. Your SO felt things were better, and starting loosening the requirements, until the problems started back up, and the whole group ended up with another set of sore bottoms. After that, you borrowed a page from a friend's book, and the kids now receive a 'strike', if they don't finish any part of their bedtime routine on time. Three strikes in three weeks results in a sore bottom for the laggard.
Because of icy weather, your kids were missing school, and they thought they were going to be on a vacation schedule. You explained to them that school hadn't been canceled, and that they were on a regular schedule. When you went to check on them, your two oldest had decided to ignore you, which put them both at three strikes. When you told the two of them to go, get ready for bed and spanking, Jared reluctantly went. Ash went off on you like a fire cracker with a short fuse.
He tells you that, when he told you it wasn't fair for you to ground him and spank the other kids, he didn't mean for you to start spanking him again, and you were being totally unfair in spanking him now, and he wasn't going to take it.
Who gets the last word on the matter?