When he first moved in with you, he had a lot of trouble adjusting. He moved in with you, because he was having a ton of trouble with his mom. You'd had to deal with his mom some, and you could see that he was probably telling the truth. However, once you started living with him, it became obvious that there were troubles on both sides.
Before moving in with you, the two of you had a long talk, and Clayton admitted that he knew how you dealt with your boys in most times of trouble, and agreed that he was willing to accept that himself. Several times over the months after he moved in, he ended up going over your lap for an old-fashioned, bare bottomed spanking, with only the implement adjusted to allow for his age. When he finally settled down, you started treating him more like you do your older boys - swats with a paddle, instead of spankings. And honestly, it's probably been a year or more now since he's been in any trouble at all. Clayton is doing fine at school, he takes care of his chores, still works for you (for extra pocket money, though you cover his major bills), and he gets along fine with the other kids at home. He's also became a valuable member of your book group.
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It's dinner time. You're sitting at the table when the doorbell rings. Most friends know not to come now, but most friends also don't use the front door. Since you sit close to the kitchen, one of your older high school boys excuses himself to answer the door. He comes back a few moments later.
"A policeman is here. He wants to talk to Clay."
You and Clayton both step away from the table.
It turns out that Clayton had a speeding ticket that he 'kind of forgot about.' It's now gone to warrant.
The officer explains that he has to take Clayton in, and that he owes $305, including the original ticket fee and a warrant fee. However, if Clayton can pay the fee, he'll be released within an hour.
The problem is that Clayton is taking a trip with some friends this summer, and you know he's currently broke from paying off his share.
You could let Clayton 'sit out the ticket' instead of paying the fine for him, but the officer says the judges aren't doing that much, and Clayton would miss a week of classes if you did that. A few months ago, another of your sons came to you with a speeding ticket, and you paid half of it, but he also took a paddling. Of course, Clayton's was on the highway, while the other boy's was on a city street, which you consider more dangerous. On the other hand, he came to you with the ticket when he received it.
You could let Clayton sit in jail overnight, and see if he can make a payment arrangement with the judge, but that would make him miss at least one day of classes.
Or you could follow him in, pay the fines, then bring him back home.
What's your decision (and don't forget that you usually switch for illegal activity, though you don't normally consider traffic tickets to qualify)?
For the record, Clayton knows he screwed up, does not want to sit in jail, and seems willing to accept whatever you decide, if you'll just bring him home now.