Ben is about 8 1/2 years younger than you, and the two of you have almost always had a close and affectionate relationship. While there were a few problems along the way, there was only one point when you had problems with him - that's when he was giving your son, his nephew, a hard time for being 'too familiar', even though you talked to several kids who said he wasn't, but that 'Coach Meyers' was treating Noah differently from the other players.
You had a talk with Ben to set matters straight, and Ben knew you well enough both to consider how he was acting, and to know how you'd react if he kept it up. You and Noah were both upset with him for a while, but things settled back to normal after a while, and you feel like your relationship has fully recovered from that.
Because Ben came by early, one of Noah's friends was also here. Eli and Noah have been friends for years, and the two of them are very close. Eli is almost like part of your family, and that's how you treat him - for the good, the bad, and the sore.
You and Noah are getting ready to fire up the grill, and you step inside to get a few things you'll need. The kitchen isn't far from the patio, and, almost before you reach it, you here yelling, then scuffling. You rush outside to find...
The two boys are swinging (rather wildly, with few connections) and scuffling around. It's not much of a fight - despite the age difference, the boys are about the same size, and neither one is a real fighter.
You and Noah quickly separate them. You are not amused, and you let that be known.
It turns out that, as soon as you left the two of them alone, the conversation went something like this.
"So, you're Coach Meyers' kid?"
"I hope he's not as big an asshole at home as he is at school."
It went downhill from there.
You have permission to treat either boy as your own, and both their fathers have always backed you on decisions. What do you decide?