This is Kyle in better times.
Kyle is in seventh grade, and has just turned 13.
Most of the time Kyle was growing up, you used spanking with him. Depending on what he'd done, it was usually something from your hand on his underpants to an implement bare, for serious offenses. Last spring, he came to you, said he felt like he was getting older, he was starting to mature physically, and he asked you to quit spanking him.
The two of you came up with some alternatives, and you gave him a list of things he did that you didn't feel like were very mature. You told him to work on those things for a few weeks, and promised that, if he could make some real improvement, you'd agree to his request.
He did, you did, and Kyle hasn't had a spanking in about four months now. Instead, when he does screw up, you discuss the issue with him, give him a couple of options, and put him in the corner for a few minutes to make a choice.
This afternoon, Kyle screwed up (it doesn't matter what he did - you feel that he deserves to be punished for it... Yes, you too). You told him that he has his choice of being grounded for two days (which would include one weekend day, and which means no electronics or leaving the house except for school and family functions - you already no he has no plans) or he can lose his phone for a week.
Kyle has now been in the corner for thirty minutes, which is about for times longer than he's ever stayed before. Once you really look, you can tell he's breathing hard, like he might be crying.
You let him out of the corner and ask what's wrong.
"Me and Dillon (his best friend) are playing a new live action phone game, and we gotta bet on it. If I give up my phone, there's no way I'll win. But it's so nice this weekend, and it's kinda cooling off now, so me and the guys were gonna ride out to Jake's house tomorrow and use his pool. His dad said it's okay. I just don't know what to decide?"
Do you help with his decision?