Jack wrote:The other problem I think I have is a clear definition of what 'bratty behavior' really means.
No, I guess what my real problem comes down to is that I'm not comfortable spanking because of what some undefined problems posited by someone I don't know. I still think I'd give a lecture and warning this time, but spankings are certainly on the table if any further problem occurs.
Kat wrote:Pete has begun causing problems at rehearsals: he doesn’t follow directions, he wanders off so that he misses cues, he is disrespectful when corrected, and he is disruptive offstage. To demonstrate her complaints, she sends you some video of the last rehearsal, where you can see for yourself that Pete is definitely being a brat.
I'm unsure how I might have defined his behavior more clearly except through giving a series of specific examples, which would have "shown" rather than told -- but at the cost of creating a story rather than a scenario.
As I've said in the past, I'm not looking for some right answer or universal agreement in the replies with scenarios I write. I think it's certainly possible to make a case for something other than a spanking, or even a punishment. I just don't see that case as resting on lack of information or ambiguity about Pete's actual misbehavior. Perhaps you'd disagree that the misbehavior I list in the scenario is serious enough to warrant a spanking or other punishment; for instance, someone might see it as a kid just being a kid in a setting that is not as structured as many activities an 11-year-old is used to. Someone might also question why the director requested parents not to remain present, which is something the scenario doesn't
say. Even with valid reasons, (parents sometimes have an inhibiting effect; not all parents can come, making some kids feel bad; some parents are too aggressive in discipline, creating an awkward tension between her rules and those of the parents) one could argue she needed to have more adult supervision and more structure, such as activities for when kids are not on stage. One might have argued she needed to communicate a clear set of expectations, including consequences for failing to meet them, to both the kids and their parents.
I find it very difficult to write a scenario that closes all loopholes. I'm not sure that's even a good idea; agreement in the answers is a bit boring. I guess what I want to create usually are scenarios in which the kid's behavior isn't in dispute but the best way of addressing the issue leads to a vigorous (and I hope civil) discussion.