Kenny is 11. He's lived with you for nearly five years now (about three months short). When he moved in, he was startled to find that some of your younger kids (who are still older than him) had stuffed animals. Kenny's biological father said that stuffed animals were for girls and babies, and Kenny had never had one. Over the next few years, Kenny amassed a fair collection of them. After a while, he stopped getting as many, and finally, he decided he was probably too old for them. Many of them were donated to various places, including some of his nephews. He only kept some that were either themed (like Star Wars and Super Heroes) or a few that had a special meaning for him.
A few months ago, one of his favorites disappeared. It was a gift from Jeremy. While Kenny's full brother and one of his half-brothers were adopted at the same time he was, Jeremy - his other half-brother, turned out to have been custody kidnapped, and he went back to his mother. When Kenny first wanted stuffed animals, Jeremy was against it, having been well-trained by their biological father. This particular bear was a Christmas gift from Jeremy after that first year, and wears the school colors from Jeremy's new school, to remind Kenny of his absent big brother.
A real effort was made to find it, looking all over the house, asking his younger nephews and cousins, and then asking his friends. E-mails were even sent to parents, including a picture of the bear, asking that if someone had gotten it mixed up with their stuff and taken home, that it be returned.
It never reappeared.
Zeke recently turned 19. Zeke was raised by what sounds like a very old-fashioned religious cult. He received very little education, and he was thrown out of his home just before he turned 18, about 14 months ago. There were only a couple of weeks before his 18th birthday, and there was no way to get him into foster care in time for him to get benefits, so he was placed with you. Since then, you've been working to get him educated to a point he can earn his own way, while also giving him space to grow and time to be a kid (which he never had - he was mostly worked while growing up).
Zeke never did have a childhood, and while he's mature in many ways, he can also be very childish at times. With his agreement, you've used physical punishment with him, though you haven't had to lately. Zeke enjoys spending time with his younger brothers, and he enjoys games that a lot of boys his age feel they've outgrown. You and his therapist agree that he's just exploring things that he's missed, and it's helping him mature.
Today, you walked into Zeke's room to remind him he hadn't finished his chores yet. You found him doing a portrait of the missing bear.
After a few minutes, you determine that it is the kidnap (bearnap?) victim. You try to give Zeke the benefit of the doubt, but he admits he's had it the entire time. He really wanted one, but was embarrassed to ask. When Kenny noticed it missing, he was even more embarrassed to return it. When you inquire, he admits he never thought about just leaving it to be found someplace.
So, what happens now? Who decides what happens now?