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1 17 Oct 2016 - Time for the News on Sun Oct 16, 2016 5:02 pm

Jack


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Recently, you've taken a new group of boys into your home. There are actually four of them, but 12-year old Devon isn't relevant to this story.

15-year old Liam, with 5-year old Curtis, and 7-year old Connor
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When the boys moved in with you, it was with the understanding that you spank, and they would be subject to it. You gave them plenty of explanation, so they'd be able to make an informed decision. While it's technically against CPS rules, it isn't actually illegal in your state.

You were able to give Curtis and Connor a room kind of for themselves. You already had one room dedicated to your grandsons and grand nephews, who are about the same ages as C&C. Like boys that age often do, they all quickly became friends, so it worked out fairly easily. The two youngest of your new boys are happy to share a room together (they already had, and this one is much bigger than their last), but they're also happy to share it with their new friends/relatives.

When you wake them after their first night with you, both boys proved unable to stay dry through the night. You're not too worried about it. Many younger boys who've stayed with you have had this problem. They've often been under a lot of stress, and their first day with your family is often full and busy. By the time they turn in, they're ready to sleep hard. You help them clean up and get the day started.

Things repeat the next morning, but with less mess and cleaning, since you had them sleep in Good Nites, just in case. However, you're wondering if there's a problem. When your other kids have left for school, you ask Liam - the eldest of the new boys.

Shamefacedly, Liam confesses to you that it's been a problem for all his brothers and himself, though he outgrew it 'a long time ago', and he thinks Devon has been dry for a year or more now.

Knowing it's a regular thing, you make a note to pick up more Good Nites, to watch what they drink after dinner, and to read up on any new information, then go on with the day.

While you're not sure how you'll be handling Liam's schooling yet, you get the other kids enrolled. You and Liam run around a bit more, but he's very quiet today. Thinking he's tired, you head home a bit early. The two of you put some things up, then he turns to you, looking sick to his stomach.

"I'm sorry I lied to you about them wetting the bed. I just thought that... I thought that if you had a chance to get to know them first, you might not mind having to deal with it. I know you were going to let us get to know the rules first, but if you think I need a whupping, I understand."

How do you take his confession?


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2 Re: 17 Oct 2016 - Time for the News on Sun Oct 16, 2016 5:56 pm

AFinch


Sherrif
While I guess it's technically a lie of omission, I wouldn't have represented it as a first, second, or third point of information myself. So far as I know, the explicit question wasn't asked, and had it been, given Liam's circumstances in trying to keep his family together, I'd have understood anyway.

I'm going to let Liam know that he's safe now, and that he can always tell me anything. No way on earth is he getting a whuppin' or anything else for this.

3 Re: 17 Oct 2016 - Time for the News on Sun Oct 16, 2016 6:00 pm

18Smacked


Wrangler
I ask Liam if he is so sick to his stomach that he wouldn't be able to eat an ice cream sundae. I get my neighbor to pop over and watch the kids for an hour so Liam and I can have a man-to-boy talk.  

I tell him that the "problem" his brothers have is common and nothing to be ashamed about. That he has hidden it from me until we bonded a bit is not an issue, as I see it. While in the future, with other issues, I will not tolerate- and will punish- half truths and lies, I am willing to overlook this one, because he was genuinely trying to have his brothers be accepted here and find a home. Well, here is a warm welcome to my home, and he need never worry that I will evict them because of a medical or psychological issue like bedwetting. I will just buy the GoodNights, and do all I can to help them overcome this minor issue. And, if there are other issues, he can feel comfortable to tell me, simply so I can know- not to evict them. While they may have had troubles finding this acceptance before, we are now past that and he can stop worrying.

Then I tell him that when we finish eating our ice cream, we can go home; our home. I give him a hug, and welcome him home.

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4 Re: 17 Oct 2016 - Time for the News on Sun Oct 16, 2016 7:17 pm

David M. Katz


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Kier and 18S both have the same sentiment and I concur with their responses.


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5 Re: 17 Oct 2016 - Time for the News on Sun Oct 16, 2016 9:39 pm

Kat


Editor Extraordinaire
Unanimous so far.

Kat

6 Re: 17 Oct 2016 - Time for the News on Mon Oct 17, 2016 12:23 am

kalico


Sherrif
I'm going to join the club so far.....



Hugs kal

7 Re: 17 Oct 2016 - Time for the News on Mon Oct 17, 2016 2:54 am

db105


Trailboss
Aww, poor kid. Of course he is not in trouble. I'll let him know it's a common problem for little kids, and more so if they have been through stressful situations, and that there's no way I was not taking them in because a little problem like that. There's nothing to be ashamed about it, and it will go away in time. And about his lying... I don't really consider it lying, but even if I did, he's a 15 year old trying to keep his family together and do the best for his little brothers. So he isn't in trouble.

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8 Re: 17 Oct 2016 - Time for the News on Mon Oct 17, 2016 2:56 am

ivor


Marshall
Count me in too.

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9 Re: 17 Oct 2016 - Time for the News on Mon Oct 17, 2016 5:56 am

Pi Beta


Deputy
I don't class an omission of the truth as a lie unless the omission is in response to a direct question.

If he insists some recompense is needed for this omission, perhaps he can take responsibility for the laundry of the two boys' nightwear and sheets.

10 Re: 17 Oct 2016 - Time for the News on Mon Oct 17, 2016 7:50 am

squarecutter


Sherrif
I aagree 100% with 18 smacked.

11 Re: 17 Oct 2016 - Time for the News on Mon Oct 17, 2016 8:42 am

StevieWeeks


Trailboss
Stevie read an article in The Lancet which opined that "bedwetters were vicious, dirty, and lazy"... "severe physical chastisement" was the way to solve this problem...

Who am I to quarrel with medical science? Birchings all round  and all...

Another article mentioned that circumcision might help as well...  

Roger, the Plumber's Apprentice - The Unkindest Cut of All

Let's try the birchings first, though...

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12 Re: 17 Oct 2016 - Time for the News on Mon Oct 17, 2016 5:14 pm

Jack


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In real life, I reacted like most of you (sorry Stevie).

Honestly, I do see this as a type of lying, but I also saw it as understandable.

Liam and I did have a long talk. I started by assuring him that I saw no reason to punish him, and then shared that the same problem runs in my family.

When we were comfortable there, we talked about honesty and lying. While I don't expect anyone to tell me every single detail, there are 'things Dad needs to know', and I expect older boys to understand this. I don't need to know if some of the boys are using 'bad words' or telling dirty jokes. I do need to know if they're playing with matches or downloading porn. In those cases, the actions could result in harm to self or property or computer viruses. Those are the kinds of things I need to know about. It's a tough row to hoe, but I think Liam has at least a basic understanding of what I expect to hear and why.


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