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BOTD 02-08-2017 Corner Crisis - A Daniel Production

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Skater

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CORNER CRISIS
A Daniel Production


Alvin is 7. You have sent him to the corner for sliding on the floor inside the house and accidentally breaking a vase. He is to remain standing there with his nose into the corner for 7 minutes (one minute per year of his age). You are pretty strict about corner time, and always remind Alvin that if he moves from there he'll get a spanking, although that has never been an issue till now.


You go to the kitchen for a couple of minutes and when you come back you find Alvin like the picture shows. He says that he doesn't want to do corner time any more.


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What do you do?


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David M. Katz

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I am going back to the kitchen to get the wooden spoon.


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18Smacked

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First of all, I will remind Alvin that if he refuses to do the corner time, that the spanking was always waiting as an alternate consequence. If he wants, we can instead discuss his actions, and I can evaluate his willingness to accept responsibility. If I understand the purpose of corner time, it is to enable the child to consider his/her actions, and thus a conversation will surely do the same thing. I will at least explain to Alvin that he either does corner time (or a discussion with me) or her gets a spanking. Maybe he forgot the spanking part as a possibility, so I will refresh his memory.

If he refuses to accept responsibility for his actions, after a discussion, then I will surely punish with spanking. But, I will first remind him that spanking was a possible alternative to corner time, since he may have forgotten this.

After this incident, I will think about getting him skate shoes so he can do his sliding outside.

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AFinch

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I'm a pushover, I guess, but from the picture, it looks to me like he's STILL in the corner. Does it really matter if he's standing with his nose in the corner, or sitting looking ashamed of (or sorry for) himself? If the point is to get him to stop and think about what he did, it looks like it was a successful intervention.

Like 18Smacked, we'll have a discussion, and consider some wheelies, but I don't see a reason to escalate this incident.

Jack

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Why did I send him to the corner?  Is sliding something we've had problems with before and I've forbidden it or was I mad at him breaking the vase.

If it's the first, I'm going to talk to him, remind him of the rules, and ask why he broke them.  Unless he's got a real attitude (doubtful in a seven year old), I'm going to suggest he take a break, use the bathroom and get a drink, and then we'll start over, but he can sit in the corner if he prefers.  If it was the second, we're going to have a talk about why I'm upset, remind him that he doesn't get to decide what his punishment is (well, by violating, I guess he can decide, but...), then tell him he's done enough this time, but not to make a habit of it.

I can watch next time to see if he tries this stunt again, but sometimes it's best to give someone a little wiggle room.

PS - I got caught at Wal-Mart sliding down one of the aisles. All I could do was grin sheepishly and blush. This was last week, so maybe I'm a push over on this point.


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Beaver

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I can understand both sides. On the one hand, I promised him a spanking if he ever got out of position, so I am inclined to get the wooden spoon in order to follow through. On the other hand, as AFinch pointed out, he is still in the corner and looks quite sorry instead of confrontational.
I fear that in this case, a spanking would escalate things and make matters worse.

Concerning the question of position, I will say the following: When I use corner time, I do require my son to face the wall. Corner time is efficient because it provides a brief time period to calm down, which should be devoid of as many sources of reinforcement as possible. Taking away all attention  usually helps to stop the misbehavior. However, this also means that time-outs should be administered without drama. So no spanking from me.

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Adric

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I agree that he is still in the corner and he does not appear to be rebellious or confrontational, but seven minutes is not really a very long time.  I am going to talk to him and tell him that he is not doing his corner time right - he has to be standing with his nose in the corner.  I also remind him, if he has forgotten, that if he doesn't want to do corner time anymore that I can spank him instead.  So I'll ask him if he is ready for a spanking, and when he says no then I'll tell him that he had better stand up and do his corner time.

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Jack wrote:
PS - I got caught at Wal-Mart sliding down one of the aisles.  All I could do was grin sheepishly and blush.  This was last week, so maybe I'm a push over on this point.

Laughing Jack also needs a time-out. It will be the next AOTD (Adult of The Day).

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Beaver

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He can stand in the corner next to CNN; Melissa McCarthy's impersonation of Sean Spicer on SNL was hilarious. If you haven't seen it already, check it out!

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squarecutter

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He is still in the corner but for me he is only half complying with instructions so he can do another 5 minutes on top doing exactly as told or take a spanking. His choice. Later we will decide whether,now he is not a baby , he wishes to skip corner time and take spankings instead.

I didnt get corner time. I got "go to your room. AND DONT SLAM THE DOOR"

ivor

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I'm joining with Adric.

He is still in the corner and he doesn't appear to be doing anything except looking remorseful.

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From now on corner time will be seven minutes with nose to the wall or twice that length in the position he's chosen.

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I'm in the Adic and Ivor club.

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