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BOTD 03-15-2017 Heading Off Sibling Rivalry at a Birthday - An 18Smacked Production

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Heading Off Sibling Rivalry at a Birthday
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This is your 9 year-old son, Adam, and today is his birthday. He is all happy and excited, since he will have a party with a cake, there will be games to play and of course, he will get presents. Today is his day in the spotlight.

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Here is Zeke, your 7 year-old son, and he loves being in the spotlight, to the extent that he usually holds the title of HDIC, which stands for "Head Dude in Charge." But, since this is not his day for that position, what can you do to head troubles off at the pass so there will not be trouble between the two of them?

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What are the things that you, as a parent, can do to avoid rivalry when one child is in the spotlight?


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Maybe get him involved with the preparation of the cake and the games for the party... Make him feel important and part of the organizing team.

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Get him involved in party preparations/activities. Discuss with him that it's Adam's day, and he'll have his own in the spotlight. Let him know how disappointed you'll be if he ruins his brother's birthday, and ask him how he'd feel if that happened to him. If he isn't a total monster, by 7 that should suffice to have him able to attend the party without ruining it.

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Get Zeke involved. Allow him to join in everything. Having his best friend invited to the party might be a worthwile distraction.When taking him to buy HIS present to his brother allow him to choose a small toy for himself. And yes get it into his head that it is ADAMS big day and he can always spend the day in his room with a sore bottom if he tries to ruin it

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Is there a reason Zeke needs to be there for his brother's party? Was Adam there for his? My first instinct is to send Zeke off with a friend to have a good time. If that isn't possible or doesn't work for some reason, I thikn the other suggestions will be fine - just remind Zeke that this is Adam's big day, and we need to let him have it and enjoy it.

"After all, Adam would probably feel bad if everybody at the party heard his little brother getting spanked." Twisted Evil


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Jack wrote:
"After all, Adam would probably feel bad if everybody at the party heard his little brother getting spanked." Twisted Evil

I bet Zeke would want to spare his brother that suffering. Laughing

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It may already be too late since I appear to have reared a monster..  

If Zeke truly fancies himself as HDIC involving him in the preparations would most likely be a passport to disaster.

It is Adam's party, not Zekes, and Adam is the one to be involved in the preparations.

I will warn Zeke, well in advance,  that this is Adam's day and he'd better keep a low profile, or else.  

If spanking becomes necessary on the day - so be it.  If Zeke is the brat the scenario implies it will probably add to the celebrations.

(If Adam and his guests shared in the administration of a supplementary birthday spanking this would serve to keep Zeke in the spotlight he so desires. Twisted Evil )

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I thought there were some great posts made to this one. I recently saw an article about this subject that spurred my writing this BOTD.

I am not saying that the responses given here are "the right answers;" the truth is that there are many situational aspects that depend upon understanding the particular makeup of the kids involved in ways a BOTD can never express. That being said, it is interesting to see what they wrote.

1.Explain the situation in advance. With that you want to strongly declare that you do not love one child more than another, but that this is simply their sibling's special day.

2. Remind your child that tey will eventually have a turn to be in the spotlight was well. This is a great way to get empathy taught to children. They can recall how excited and special they feel when it's their birthday, and that since they want to support their sibling, they will want to do all they can to give him that great experience, too.

3. Make sure all your children are entertained and included. Maybe one child needs his best friend there so he can have a good time; let that happen. Or, let them bring a game they like to share at the party. And, give special tasks, like bringing in the cake, or delivering the presents to the birthday boy.

4. Remind them how important their support is to their sibling. Sometimes kids need a reminder that they are a part of the whole family and everyone supports one another.

5. Teach them the tough lesson: life isn't always fair. This is a harsh reality of life, and everyone, kids included, needs to learn it.

6. Don't reward bad behavior. Don't fall for a temper tantrum to get your attention. Deal with meltdowns quickly and away from the attention of the group there for the party.

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