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BOTD 05-16-2017 Jared's Joke - A Kat Production

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Skater

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Jared's Joke
A Kat Production

Your 8-year-old stepson Jared got separated from you in a toy store at the mall. While you are searching the store, the manager pages you: "Will the father of Jared please report to the Customer Service Desk?" Relieved, you make your way to the CSD, where Jared tells the manager you are NOT his father. After you offer your identification and your spouse's phone number, Jared admits you are his STEP father. He is delighted with his joke. (You've raised Jared since he was three and he calls you Dad or Daddy.)

Jared - 8
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Will he find it funny when you get him home?


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18Smacked

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I will have a very serious discussion with Jared about the seriousness of saying that I am his stepfather or father right at the beginning- that failing to do that can only result in his ending in foster care for a night or some similar consequences. I understand the 8 year-old sense of humor but in this case, what my son needs to understand is how this "joke" can result in problems.

When this is explained, I will in the future, expect an appropriate response as to my being his father.

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Adric

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It seems that this issue can be resolved instantly by my saying, "I'm his stepfather."  Then the manager asks Jared, "Is this your stepfather?" and  he says "Yes."  Problem solved without any further unpleasantness.

Jared does or did have a father, and I am not that person.  The biological father is out of the picture.  I don't see the necessity of making Jared agree that I am his father.  Jared may think that it is a funny joke to confuse the manager in this way, but he may also just be trying to assert that I and his biological father are two different people.  That seems fair to me.  I probably won't say anything more about it.

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db105

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18Smacked's response works for me. I won't spank Jared, but he needs to understand that this is not the appropriate subject for jokes, and that it can waste people's time and effort and cause a lot of complications. He also needs to know that if there is a similar incident in the future he will get a spanking.

Also, he needs to know that, step or no step, I am his father and he is my son, and I love him.

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AFinch

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Ditto 18Smacked and Daniel.

Adric

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There must be something I am missing here.  He has or had a father and I am not that person, so he is telling the truth.  The biological father is out of the picture and I am his legal guardian.  He may be thinking this is funny, but he is also telling the truth and I can't see punishing him for that, or even discussing it with him as if it were a serious problem.

I have no step-relatives in my family so perhaps I am insensitive to an issue that some of you are more attuned to than I am.

Again, it seems that all I have to say is "I'm his stepfather."  As soon as Jared confirms that the matter is settled.

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Kat

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Just to clarify: Jared is not trying to make a clarification between father and stepfather. He is denying any connection to you at all because he thinks it's funny to see you babbling to the store manager. You've explained you are his stepfather and he confirms it after watching you in glee for a couple of minutes.

You: I'm Jared's dad.

Jared: He's not my dad.

You: Jared, this isn't funny. Tell the man who I am.

Jared: I don't know.

Manager: Uh, Sir... Do you have any proof?

You: Here's my driver's license, and this is the phone number of Jared's mom. I'm his stepfather.

Jared: (now worried that the manager has his mom's number) Uh, this is my stepdad.

You: (as the manager glares at Jared) I'm awfully sorry.

Jared: But you asked if he was my dad!

You: And you said you didn't know who I was. Not cool, Jared.

Jared: Yeah, but it sure was funny!

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StevieWeeks

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I'm just going to give in and let Jared enjoy his night in the custody of the CAS and all...

He'll probably enjoy my joke even less than I am enjoying his...

Adric

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That does clarify things a bit. Not cool, Jared.

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David M. Katz

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Agreed

"Not cool, Jared."

In the car on the way home we will discuss how this could have turned out really badly.


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MemoryMan

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In the scenario Jared agrees that I am his stepfather.

In these circumstances I empathise with the understanding shown by Adric.

When we get home we'll be discussing (in a non punitive manner) the points raised by the other respondents.

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ivor

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I tend to be in Adric's camp on this one.

Jared seems to have decided to have some fun but without realising the possible consequences - which probably he doesn't appreciate being 8 years old and not in this situation before. I doubt he'll do it again - even without a spanking.

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Jack

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Adric wrote:There must be something I am missing here.

What you're missing is the part of the scenario that says you've been in his life since he was three, and that he calls you Dad or Daddy.

There are some situations where what you describe might happen, and it might even happen with Jared in five or eight years, when he's trying to find his own identity.

As for myself and my experience with eight year olds.... Kids that age are starting to really learn language, and how intricate it can be. I would imagine it just started out as word play, and then what Kat suggested came into it.

As long as nothing like this has happened before, I don't see it as a spanking problem. I'm just going to explain to him how much trouble (for both of us) could have resulted, as well as the fact that a person who's at work, and whom we don't know, is not really someone appropriate to play jokes on.


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